INFJ sites to visit and learn, and a personal commentary

http://ms-dee.hubpages.com/hub/The-rare-infj-personality-a-profile

http://www.16personalities.com/infj-careers

http://www.personalitypage.com/INFJ.html

http://avoidingatrophy.blogspot.com/2012/03/infj.html

...etc...

Essentially, they're all going to sound pretty much the same, as this personality type is a 'type' for a reason.  We couldn't, and wouldn't if we could, change much (if anything) about ourselves. 

What I think we would all appreciate a change in - is the way we are viewed by the rest of the world, most of whom will never in this lifetime be able to understand us.  We don't expect people to understand us - that would be asking for the impossible.  But accepting that we are as we are, and understanding THAT - it would be an enormous help. 

Give us a wrong right in our faces, and we're likely to blow a gasket, or leave the situation immediately to avoid doing so as conflict is anathema to us. 

Give us a cause we can and do believe in, and we're in it up to our eyeballs for the long haul. 

Give us a lie, and we're going to lose any respect we might have had for you - as in RIGHT NOW this very second - and you will NEVER get it back.  Because you can bet  your bottom dollar we recognize a lack of personal integrity when it's in our vicinity.  That is a given, my friend.  Never think you can fool an INFJ - it ain't gonna happen. 

Give us honesty and integrity, and you'll have an ally for life. 

Give us a person in need, and we will pinpoint that need in a heartbeat and do everything in our power to meet it. 

Mistreat a person in need in our presence, and you will no doubt feel a hot wrath in the air, though we say not a word.  Quite frankly, holding our tongues in such a situation may well be beyond our ability, or desire, to do. 

We respect and accept that others are as they are; we have learned, often the hard way, that they can no more change than we can.  Yet the reverse is more often than not NOT going to happen.  Respect and acceptance of us as we are is rare, and so mostly we 'hide'.

Challenge our personal integrity, and something's going to happen.  Being unwilling to engage in conflict, we will most likely go away; if that's not physically possible, we will withdraw into our own selves for however long it takes us to understand the underlying issues of others.   If it's serious enough, we WILL speak up, and of course realize that others will be defensive, because that's the way THEY are.  And we will be goated.

Being incapable of deceit ourselves, we loathe it in others, although we have to accept that it infects just about every other person on the planet.  We still loathe it, and being sensitives we ALWAYS pick up on it. 

We pick up on EVERYTHING - good or bad - and thank heaven the good generally has more pull.  When it's otherwise, it's physically painful for us, emotionally painful, and spiritually painful - we'll beat a path to the nearest door to avoid it as it can and will make us very sick. 

And how on earth do we explain something like THAT to the rest of the population who not only can't understand us and the impact such things have on us, but don't CARE? 

Just sayin' 

There's a lot more to this whole thing - sometimes I feel as though I ought to wear a sign or something - just in case anyone ever cared enough to want to know.  But nobody ever does and that's just SAD.